19 year old guy dating 26 year old woman
I then gave different ages for their friend — 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 — and asked participants what the socially acceptable minimum and maximum ages of their friend’s new lovers were.Although I could have hit the streets of New York and surveyed people in-person Buunk style, I decided to m Turk my survey.The researchers then presented different types of relationships- sexual fantasies, casual affairs, long-term relationships, marriage — and asked the participants what the minimum and maximum age of their partner is for each scenario.The results were interesting but just because I want to date someone much younger than me doesn’t mean I would be okay with someone else doing the same.The “creepiness rule” states that the youngest you should date is “half your age plus seven.” The less commonly used corollary is that the oldest you should date is “subtract seven from your age and double it.”According to this rule, society should accept a 50 year old man dating a 32 year old woman. Reactions ranged from “sure” to “that’s weird” to “why are you asking me this? When I flipped the genders — a 50 year old woman dating a 32 year old man — people’s responses often flipped as well.This made me wonder, does the creepiness rule actually reflect what is socially acceptable when it comes to age differences in dating?
According to the survey, a 20 year-old John can date someone who is 30.As I reviewed the data, I realized that one rule was not enough.Society has different expectations for men and women — men can date younger than women and women can date older than men.As John and Lauren got older, however, the creepiness rule differed from how people actually responded.
According to the rule, a 60 year-old woman is allowed to date 37 year-olds like nobody’s business.
When John/Lauren are 30, the creepiness rule actually lines up with how people responded.