2 months of dating
One of his sisters got married within four months, and his other sister was married within five months.
So after three months [of James and I dating], they were all like, “Come on, what are you all doing? He told me we were going to dinner with some friends and we went walking on the beach before dinner.
I don't usually get nervous before dates because I just expect them to not work out.
But this was different — I was actually excited about it.
When anyone makes this weighty statement super-early in a relationship, it raises questions about whether or not the person is genuine or just caught up in the moment.
But in general, if you say, “I love you,” before dating for three to six months, you could be mistaking love for something else. I wouldn’t feel really confident if someone is saying it before six months because what they are is infatuated,” says sociologist Pepper Schwartz, a professor at the University of Washington and the author of If you haven’t yet slept together and someone says, “I love you,” watch out. Tessina says a person may say, “I love you,” during sex or to obtain sex, but they might not have really thought it through or mean it.
If you’re the one who said it because you were caught up in the moment, you might want to crack a joke about how great the romp was that it made you exaggerate a little.
Either way, it’s not a commitment in any way, says Tessina.
We talked about big stuff because we had dated a lot and were tired of games.
On that first phone conversation, we both said, 'This is either going to work or it’s not.Besides, I was working crazy hours and had no time to go out on dates anyway.