Dating a forgetful man
''People with ADHD very much intend to do something when they say it. '' Do you feel like you’re always getting blamed for forgetting things, when you know no one actually told you about them?
It’s not like some problems where people lie or are deceitful,'' says Steven Safren, Ph D, director of behavioral medicine in the department of psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital. Consider this: The condition often causes people to forget things they’re told.
Adult ADHD is often treated with a combo of medications, skills coaching, and psychotherapy, including couples counseling and cognitive behavioral therapy.
If you have a spouse or partner, it’s important for them to be involved.
You can start by looking over free online resources from organizations like Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD) and the National Center on ADHD.
These sites can help you find local doctors, and support groups where you can meet people facing similar issues.
It could be a sign of trouble if your partner: Bottom line: Trust your judgment.They often can tell which treatments are or aren’t working.“It’s a good scenario if someone does have a supportive partner, so they can work together in a positive way to address the disorder,” Safren says.“Early in a relationship, it’s that one thing that’s right in front of you that may be a sign of something deeper.” Everyone can have a bad day, so don’t rush to judgment, Marshall says.
“But you have to trust yourself to ask questions about things that make you feel uncomfortable.” “In the first blush of romance, people overlook a lot of stuff because they’re so excited,” says clinical psychologist Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed D.
But “usually, couples can make their lives better and recapture some of the joy and romance that might have gone out of the relationship,” says psychologist Arthur Robin, Ph D, professor of psychiatry at Wayne State University in Detroit.