Dating a friend best friend
Tell him how much you have enjoyed your alone time, and that you would love to begin going on regular dates.
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Having a crush on your best friend can be a complicated situation.
On one hand, friends often make the best partners, as you already know and trust one another.
Nothing felt weird to me, but the transitions didn’t just happen on their own.
At each new point, we always had a conversation to find out where we were and how we felt.
Kelly: The person I want to hang out with most is right next to me when I wake up.
Ashley: We met in a seminar that was set up like a production company, and I was his boss. About a year later, after ending a terrible relationship and getting fired from my job, I went to a party at his house.
He asked if anybody wanted to go four-wheeling, and I said I did. Kelly: She didn’t really know it was supposed to be a date. Ashley: I’m bisexual, and if this were true, I wouldn’t have any friends. And I have been attracted to most of them at some point or another, just not in a way that I could or wanted to sustain. Kelly: I think that viewing relationships as an inevitable thing that happens between two people who are attracted to each other takes away from the emotional vulnerability, and work, that goes into building strong commitments.
Ashley: The second time around, after he’d lived in Seattle, he just showed up on my doorstep and kissed me. Also, it really doesn’t say much for platonic friendship if you can only be friends with people you aren’t attracted to.
However, making the first move and landing a date can be difficult, as you don't want to risk what you already have.
If you approach things carefully, you can turn a friendship into a loving relationship. Create a more intimate environment between you and your best friend away from your other friends.After a year in Seattle he came back to Indiana to visit, and we decided to try and date for real. Ashley: We talked so much about every decision and all of our feelings so that even when it felt weird, it quickly went back to not feeling weird.