Dating a white man for the first time
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It does not matter if your boyfriend is a civil rights lawyer, A first generation Latvian immigrant, or, Howard-fucking-Zinn himself It is still so obvious (to some) You are You are compromising, You Are Compromised.
was even a question It does not matter That Black Lives Matter!
was always your answer It doesn’t matter what Angela taught you(and why do you think she looks that way?
But even though I know what’s coming, the confused (at best) and condescending (at worst) responses can still hurt.
They seem to say, “I don’t know anything about your culture, but I can tell you right now what’s best for you.” Yes, some men are open, kind.I don’t look the same; I have hair on every inch of my skin; I’m worried he might be fetishizing me; my circle of friends is multi-ethnic and loud and proud about it; I grew up in a diverse suburb that I can make fun of but he absolutely can’t; my favourite tote bag reads “Carry yourself with the confidence of a mediocre white man.” These are points of tension.