Dating between black women
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Our marriage rates have always been low compared to other countries.
I think what’s become a part of the culture is that there’s a sense or belief that black women are facing some kind of marriage crisis, but like everyone is facing some difficulty in finding a partner, and marriage is on the decline, so black women have become the face of something that’s national.
The shortage of marriageable black men has been shown to be due, primarily, to structural issues, which are ties to racial inequality. They’re too strong, and these are traits that make them undesirable as romantic partners. OKCupid has shown that that’s in fact not the case. Sociologist Sarah Adeyinka-Skold poses for a portrait by the University of Pennsylvania campus on Thursday, Feb. Adeyinka-Skold will speak about the myths and misconceptions about black women marrying at the Free Library on Feb.
There are fewer black men because of mass incarceration, declines in men’s wages, unemployment, just to name a few. To me, that just shows that the lingering shortage of black men suggests a persistent trend of structural racism, and not a failing of black people. Some people say that black women don’t want to get married. I think that those myths are out there, and they’re persistent, but there’s a reason they’re myths. 20 I believe that these myths go all the way back to slavery, and [have] followed black women into their fight for justice and equality.
But many of the myths and misconceptions that exist today are rooted in stereotypes invented decades ago.
We weren’t hooking up, nothing was happening with us.
Society, including black men, unfortunately uses these stereotypes to question black womanhood, black female liberation, and black women’s potential for romantic relationships.
Those sentiments are definitely still around today.
That perception is due to long-held myths and beliefs about black women, says Adeyinka-Skold, which have transformed into commonly-held ideologies.
A 2014 OKCupid study of its user data showed that most men on the site rated black women as less attractive than women of other races.
It’s not like there were no black women dating, but comparatively to the other women on campus, we just weren’t feeling the love.