Dating bipolar people
I would think there would be a HUGE difference between someone getting the right medication/treatment for Bipolar, or those who have learned good coping skills, and those who are untreated or undiagnosed.I have OCD (fairly severe, when unmedicated), but thanks to therapy (years and years ago) and Prozac I can live completely normally.Shes currently engaged to some guy now and shes already cheated on the poor SOB with one of my friends.Kinda feel bad for her fiance, he's got a tough road ahead of him.All of these can be worked through and all of them occur in everyone's lives but much more frequently with a partner with mental illness.
Sometimes I need to cancel plans with my GF last minute because I simply can't be around people for an afternoon.Whether or not it is a doable or "worth it" situation depends on entirely on one thing: Do they take their disorder seriously? I feel, due to cultural expectations (the man must be "take charge" and "in control" at all times) that it was somewhat easier for me to really take responsibility for myself regardless of the real emotional and behavioral hijackings that occur...simply by making me more predisposed to taking responsibility for myself on an innate level.Do they have a regular, consistent, effective care and management plan that they stick to, even (especially) when cycling? I had a friend who dated someone with bi-polar disorder and I got to see it first hand since we shard an apartment. She flew from happy to horribly depressed to angry at the drop of a hat.Interesting thread - weighing in with my own (different) perspective. Really I feel like there's a mixed bag/wide spectrum here.
One thing to realize is that dating a bipolar person is inherently unfair to you - you will to make emotional concessions for them that neither you, nor any other normal person, would need or expect, much less deserve.If given the chance to do it again, I probably would, but I'd want to take with me the knowledge I've gained from it.