Dating your ex spouse ex spouse
And there are many marriage counselors who would tell you that you did the right thing when you divorced him.But I would have tried to look at angles that you may not have considered.On the one hand, he is the Giver, who never wants to hurt you, always wants to meet your needs, wants to keep his family together, and is ashamed by his past misbehavior.This is the side of him that you know loves you and that you want desperately.However, I would have tried to save yours because your husband did not present a physical threat to you.Granted, he was an emotional threat, capable of driving you (and your family) nuts.They are orchestrated by his Giver and Taker, who live miles apart in his mind.
It's his Taker that ruins your marriage, because it operates with no thought for your feelings.I told him that I needed to see some lasting changes in "him" before I would consider working on "our" relationship.I told him that I would agree to counseling if he would stop seeing other women.After 3 months he wanted to move back home and I agreed---actually was thrilled to death to keep my marriage and family together.
My friends and family had a much more difficult time dealing with this than I. Then, 4 years later, he moved out again and starting seeing another woman. It was a very nasty divorce that included too many friends and family (and self-serving attorneys).
One of your biggest problems to overcome is his addiction to alcohol and other women.