Online dating email opening lines
Getting past the pleasantries and straight into a real exchange is the best way to figure out if they’re interested and you should be interested. As Jack Donaghy once told Liz Lemon: Be open, confident, and positive.Apply that to who you (really) are and trust that the right people will connect with it.
This article is about the most important skill you can master in online dating that no one’s talking about: the message.
You need to understand that and use your messages to transmit signals that you are a respectful, responsible person who has healthy boundaries.
So how do you make her feel safe in the messaging phase?
Okay; so you’ve been browsing your matches online and you’ve come across someone who might be a possibility. How do you start the first message to what could be your soulmate in a way that engages and interests them without making you sound a bit odd? In his first message to me, my now fiancé complimented me on the use of an apostrophe in my profile (I’d talked about going to parents’ evening at school – sexy stuff.) To me though, someone who writes for a living, this was the ultimate in flattery and proved that he too knew his ‘their’ from his ‘they’re’. I appreciate that grammar may not be the way to everyone’s heart, so I’ve come up with a few ideas for the all-important first message.
They look normal in their profile pic and they’ve included the obligatory picture of them with friends on a skiing holiday. Honesty, adventure, Sunday lunches – tick, tick, tick. Be warned though; these are for guidance only and you’ll want to customize them – after all, you never know if your crush has read this post too…’ Would you rather have the power to travel through time or the ability to read minds?