Podcast dating after divorce
You can go to worthy.com/podcast to read some of her articles that you might find interesting if you enjoy this episode. I love writing for Worthy, I think you guys are great. I am still waiting for that to happen, but the weather girls were inaccurate. For a long time I just really didn’t like great guys, honestly. Audrey: I think so many people have that experience, too. Well, one of the things I see is that unfortunately, I see this actually a little more for men than I do for women, but the divorce has really, really crushed them. I mean, I don’t know if you can ever really be happy until you believe that you deserve to be happy. So a lot of people exit the divorce feeling defeated, and that is normal. You put your whole life into somebody, and then you walk away, and you have nothing. “I’ve been burned once, and I’m not willing to risk it again.”Laura Lifshitz: Yes.
We’re going to take a quick break, and then we’ll be right back with Laura. I think the content’s really relevant, and inspiring, and positive, and that’s really … I mean, I think one of the silver linings of divorce is that you really have an opportunity to see what wasn’t right, and pursue your future with some lessons learned, and pursue things that make more sense for you. One of the problems I see, and obviously I’m female, so I have the women’s viewpoint. I think what’s so great about your point of view is that it’s so honest, and it’s so human, and that is beyond the female and male experience. I see it with women too, and I think that it’s unfortunate, because I see it as yes, a divorce was a failed marriage. You have to, because I could sit here and cry that I have no money, and I struggle, and my daughter will ask, “Why can’t we do this?
Let us help you get the best deal possible for the jewelry you’ve outgrown. I am very excited to be joined today by a very special guest. We’re very honest about what it’s like, and I love your voice, and I’m so, so excited that you are doing this episode with us. Laura Lifshitz: My ex and I were together for maybe eight years. I love hearing people’s stories, and I deeply feel for people, I’m very empathetic. They’re not sitting here and saying, “This is what I gathered from this. Never, not a second did I ever think this would be my fate. Yeah, this was going to be my fate, because I wasn’t making the best choices for myself with love, because I didn’t feel great about me.
I think the biggest thing I can tell anybody after divorce or getting through a divorce is you need to really own your mistakes, figure out who you are, and really, you have to turn this into a win if you ever want to move on after a divorce and be with someone else.
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On the Worthy blog and social channels there is always one topic that gets the most hits: love and dating after divorce. Laura Lifshitz: But we weren’t obviously a love match. I don’t think he’s ready.” It’s funny, I almost wanted to text him and be like, “Look, you know, I don’t think you’re ready, but I’m here for you as your friend, and I’m going to encourage you.”Audrey: That’s so sweet. Audrey: Right, you’re not willing to waste your time because you feel that your time is valuable. Laura Lifshitz: Exactly, you know, you’re not supposed to bend yourself into a pretzel in order to fit someone’s desires. Audrey: Yeah, when you want something you make it happen. If you’re swiping left and right and you match with, let’s just say, Joshua. Joshua could have decided to get reconnected with his girlfriend from high school.
She’s also very relatable, and very funny, and this was such a fun interview, and we’re so excited to share it with you. In my world, if it rained men I would be gloriously happy. I had a new boyfriend every other day, and I tended to always think like … We learn when it’s our time to learn, and I learned, and I grew confident when it was my time to grow confident. Laura Lifshitz: Yes, and it’s the most cliché thing, and it’s annoying, and people used to tell me that, “Ah you need to love yourself.” I’m like, “Yeah, yeah, Oprah Winfrey. I know, and there are times where I’m like, “Uh, I don’t like the way I look. I don’t like my hair or my face.” Whatever the case is. Audrey: It’s so important to find the way to love yourself, even if it has nothing to do with the way you look. Guys are like, “Oh, she did me in for my money.”Just the people who have decided that, “You know what, I’m never going to take this risk again. I am just going to lock myself up in my own little world and keep everyone out.”Audrey: Yeah.
I love children, so I’m more than willing to accept anybody else’s kids as my own. If anybody has kids I’ll love them, but I don’t want to have any of my own, again. I had a guy message me the other day and he was like, “I am divorcing my wife because she doesn’t want kids.” I said, “Well then you definitely don’t want to go out with me because I’m not planning on having anymore children.” He was like, “Oh, but you know, you seem so amazing and beautiful.” I’m like, “I get it.
Laura Lifshitz: Yes, and I suffered like hell for her so I can not do it again. I really just, yeah, that’s one of the biggest things.
No matter where you are in your own journey this episode is for you. They just let people walk all over them or they’re like, “I don’t want to do this, but I’m going to do this.” Or you know what?
We knew the best person to chat about this with is Laura Lifshitz, one of our favorite writers on the Worthy blog! This guy messaged me and he said something really not that great, but I’m going to go out with him anyway. You have to sit there and have expectations of how you want to be treated. Laura Lifshitz: I was like, “Actually, never, and this is the end of our conversation.”Audrey: Yeah, good for you.
One guy messaged me the other day and he did the female thing, which we’re going to talk about that, too. I said, “I’m looking for a long term partner and I don’t rush into that kind of choice.